Several years ago I put out the Guides for Successful Construction Projects, one for Contractors and one for Property Owners. These are two separate, two-sided laminated sheets which took a year and a half to condense down from all my previous writing. Almost harder to do than the 190 page book I came out with last Fall, Conscious Cooperation: How to Create Successful Construction Projects.”
I gave these to a noted psychologist from Boston, Dr. Richard Wolman. We had gotten to know each other a little, and I was doing a little maintenance work for him. Previously, we talked of spirituality in daily life, and the healing potential for inspired therapy and mediation. Richard has a spirituality inventory on the internet under the heading Psychomatrix, and he has taught at Harvard Law School for years. He is an interesting man, to put it mildly. He exudes kindness.
Interestingly, Richard’s office is within the complex of David Hoffman and the Boston Law Collaborative. David is quite a guy, too. I have written about him before. He is a gifted mediator, collaborative attorney and teacher. He is interviewed and quoted in my book. Before he was an attorney he was a professional woodworker! His ears opened up when he heard my background.
Anyway, Richard Wolman really liked my Guides for Successful Construction Projects. He said, “This is terrific. Say, why don’t we do this for successful marriage and successful divorce?” So, I started in on this project in 2009, Richard commented back and added more good thought, and then things lay fallow until recently.
We are back at it, inspired now by my partial involvement in helping with cooperative efforts in a divorce situation. Hopefully we will have this completed soon and out in the world.
The main reason I bring it up, though, is just to point out the broad application of conscious cooperation and the spirit of mediation. They apply to any human relationship; work, personal, community action, and so on. An intention of cooperation and positive outcomes for everyone involved, and definite steps in this direction can always benefit any interaction. This can be especially true for touchy and potentially explosive situations, and divorce and even the contemplation of it can be totally uprooting. I feel fortunate to be involved with Richard in this endeavor, and I am eager to get the work out there. Next, maybe we will tackle the Successful Marriage version.